Employee criticizes corporate team building exercise, faces judgment from colleagues: 'It shouldn't be my responsibility to manage difficult personalities'

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  • A representation of a male employee making a complaint to coworkers in a meeting
  • I disrupted a corporate "team-building" meeting by saying I’m only there to do my job. Am I wrong?

    I'm feeling really thrown off after confronting my boss and coworkers during a mandatory team-building session today.
  • The company hired a corporate coach to help us "improve both socially and professionally." Now, I am perfectly functional when it comes to the social aspects of my job. But at the end of the day, I'm a programmer-my social skills aren't supposed to be those of a project manager or a salesman.
  • At one point, the coach started teaching us techniques on how to deal with difficult coworkers. I ended up lighting a torch under the meeting by saying that while I obviously need to be cooperative and capable of working in a team, it shouldn't be my responsibility to manage difficult personalities on top of doing the actual job I'm paid for: programming.
  • The entire team looked at me in absolute disbelief and completely disagreed with my take. Now I'm sitting here wondering if I'm just a massive ah le who refuses to deal with anyone's crop. They argued that these corporate coaching sessions are "beneficial" because they teach life skills, but honestly, I couldn't care less about socializing at work. I go there because I get paid.
  • Is this actually a hot take, or does anyone else here agree with me?
  • A representation of a group of colleagues in a meeting listening to somebody speaking
  • principium_est That's the kind of sh you say to coworkers when the boss is not around lol
  • JSC843 There is irony in being difficult when the topic is dealing with difficult coworkers.
  • I get not wanting to do things beyond your scope, but your job includes a few things outside of "programming". Documentation, project planning, requirement discussions with stakeholders, are
  • "programming" but you probably still do them because it is needed to do the programming itself. This is just one of those things with the purpose of enabling you to do your job. Might not be the most useful, but it's not worth making a stink about.
  • alloutofchewingum I think most people would: 1. Agree with you privately 2. Tell you that you nearly invented a brand new kind of stupid saying this out loud in a situation like that
  • Chronza You outed yourself as the exact difficult person their hypothetical was about. Like you couldn't pay me to fumble that hard on purpose.
  • ANicePainter The meeting was apparently to help your coworkers work with people like you. So I guess you're right that it wasn't for you as you're the subject, not the audience.
  • TechinBellevue The people who need it most, IMHO, seem to be the ones who question it most - say they don't need it.
  • JustMajestic1 If you don't see the use in being able to deal with difficult coworkers...it probably means you are the difficult coworker.
  • justaguyonthebus These are important skills often overlooked by programmers. The job is as much managing expectations and communicating as it is writing code. At the more senior levels anyway.

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